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If you have been successful with what you have been taught about how life works, and if you have been satisfied with what society has given you, please don't read this book. It would be a waste of your money to buy it and a waste of your time to read it.

However, if you have spent a good deal of time, energy and money trying to improve yourself, wondering what is wrong with you and trying to change yourself in order to make your life work, this is the book for you. We will attempt to explain that you have been unable to fix yourself because there is nothing wrong with you, but there is quite a bit wrong with what you have been taught to believe about yourself and your life.

Most people live and die completely trapped in self-hate and never know it. So much more is possible. This book reveals how self-hate works and how to let go of it.

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Cover -- Copyright -- Dedication -- Acknowledgments -- Introduction -- Table of Contents -- Surviving Childhood -- My Survival System Is Killing Me! -- Suffering provides our identity. -- Self-Hate Is a Process -- A Scam Self-Hate Loves to Run -- Some of the Forms Self-Hate Takes -- Some Voi c es and Gestures and Actions of Self-Hate -- The Voices -- Self-Hate Has Many Voices. -- “Where did all this self-hate come from?” -- Socialization and Subpersonalities -- Why Am I So Needy? -- Self-Hate Accounting: The "Insufficient Funds" Rule -- Constructive Criticism: Not Required -- Common Wisdom that Supports Self-Hate -- Conflicting Beliefs that Maintain Self-Hate -- Self-Evaluation: Another Unhelpful Idea -- Investing in Misery -- Self-Hate Accounting System -- Self-Hate and The Battering Cycle -- Spiritual Practice Doesn’t Begin Until the Beatings Stop. -- Meditation: Feel the Burn -- Unconditional Love -- Not wanting to be how you are... -- When you don’t hate yourself... -- Nothing to Do -- Gratitude -- Self-Hate’s Greatest Talent -- Self-Hate and Addiction -- Compassion, No Matter What -- Willingness Is the Key -- The Voices: Listen, but Don’t Believe -- Learn to be present. -- The Most Frightening Thing in the World -- Self-Hate: Everyone''s Doing It! -- What Is the Path? -- Horrible Things (and I do mean horrible) -- The Gift -- It''s No Wonder We Feel Inadequate -- The Worst Thing That Could Happen -- It’s Really Quite Miraculous -- Fake It ’Til You Make It -- Stay with the Breath -- It''s Okay to Feel Afraid? -- It May Be True... -- But I Could Make a Mistake! -- A Definition of Suffering -- Self-Hate and the Illusion of Control -- Meditation Will Take Care of It -- Going Out, Getting Miserable, Coming Back -- Who''s Afraid of Me? I''m Afraid of Me! -- The Path of Patient Effort -- Almost Nobody Wants to Grow Up. -- Two Old Zen Stories -- “There’s Something Wrong with This Universe” -- Self-Hate Doesn’t Work (or does it?) -- Nothing To Do, No One To Do It -- Sitting Still, Sitting With -- What’s Really Going On -- We Have a Choice. -- A Useful Pursuit -- The Movement of the Mind -- Miracles -- Jesus Said -- On the Path -- The Doorway of Compassion -- .